Sep 12 2007
You Can’t Please Everyone
No matter how much we all want to be liked and accepted, it’s impossible to please everyone all the time.
Have you ever tried? If you’ve got any people-pleasing tendencies, you know the immense pressure that results from them. You run around in circles, walk on eggshells, trying to be everything that everyone expects you to be. And the harder you try to meet everyone’s expectations, the less pleased they seem to be.
The truth is, some people will find fault with you no matter what you do. Even when you can please some of the people some of the time, other people will be complaining and nitpicking about the very same things that make those other people happy! 
It’s an exercise in futility. Here’s a novel idea: focus on pleasing YOURSELF.
That doesn’t mean you have to ignore others’ needs. It doesn’t mean you have to become self-centered and selfish. It means you have to follow your heart and do what is right for YOU.
Accomodate people when you can, but don’t try to save anyone. Don’t try to coddle anyone. Don’t try to ingratiate yourself to others because it almost always backfires.
Instead, do the things that make your heart sing. Live each moment with passion and joy - and let go of the little stuff that threatens your inner peace.
When you do this, you’ll automatically attract the people who resonate most deeply with who you are - who you GENUINELY are. You’ll create mutual meaningful bonds; not superficial, conditional ones.
And for those other people, the ones who are always looking for your faults? They’ll find someone else to pick on when they realize you’re turning your focus in a more positive direction.
Wendy
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Wendy Betterini has spent much of her writing career empowering people to transform their lives by changing their thoughts. All change begins within.
Good thoughts. I think too many people are concerned with being liked. It’s natural to want to be accepted, but it’s not good if it affects our own beliefs and what we do.
I think Seth Godin put it really well in , where he talked about Eugene Kates. “For a lot of people, it was easy not to like him. For everyone, it was impossible not to respect him.”
That’s the thing, isn’t it. If you stand for something, if you are truly authentic, you may not necessarily be liked by everyone, but you will definitely be respected. And I think that’s just as good (if not better).