Creation Thoughts

I got an email the other day from a woman I’ll call Michelle. Michelle is dating a divorced man and things are going along great for them – but the problem is the man’s teenaged daughter, Kim.

Kim hates Michelle. Michelle was not the cause of Kim’s parents divorce, but she still hates her and wants nothing to do with her. Michelle does everything in her power to be friendly with Kim. She invites her over for gatherings and talks nicely to her when she sees her, but Kim just keeps pulling away. Michelle wanted to know if the law of attraction might help this situation.

Here was my response to her:

That is definitely a sticky situation! Part of the problem may be that she’s a teenager – don’t they hate everyone? LOL I’m kidding, but not really. That’s how I was as a teen, always looking for a reason to dislike someone or create drama in my life. (I wouldn’t have admitted it back then, of course – it was everyone else’s fault, not mine) Being a teen is a difficult stage of life; they are trying to figure out who they are and their place in the world. They’re under tremendous pressure in many ways, and that can bring up lots of feelings of anger which get directed all over the place. Then when you throw in family problems, like their parents getting divorced, it just makes it worse.

The good news is that this type of situation is PERFECT for using the law of attraction. Why? Because it’s a situation that you can do little about on a physical level. You’re doing as much as you can already by being nice to her, inviting her over, being patient with her, etc. That’s all great, keep doing that.

At the same time, however, begin visualizing the way you want things to be on a daily basis. Imagine all of you having great family outings and laughing and having fun together. Imagine you and her spending quality time together. Imagine the two of you being close friends. Mentally tell her the things you want her to know: how much you care for her father, how much you care for her, how much you want all of you to be happy. Tell her you love her and imagine hugging her and letting her know that you are there for her.

Do this every day. But don’t try to force any of it to happen on a physical level. Let her come around on her own. Continue to reach out to her, but don’t push.

I think you’ll be surprised at how well this can work!

And this same technique can be used to heal any kind of relationship! I remember years ago I worked with a woman and there seemed to be tension between us from the first day we met. I didn’t even know why but we seemed to have a strong dislike for each other for no apparent reason. I used the above technique and began visualizing us being friendly, laughing and joking during the course of the work day. Before long, I found myself smiling warmly at her and saying “Good morning” when I saw her at work, and she slowly began responding in the same spirit. Within a couple of months, the tension had completely dissolved. We didn’t become best friends or anything, but there was definite harmony between us. No more awkwardness.

So try this with your boyfriend’s daughter and see what happens. And report back to me, I’d love to hear about your progress!

Wendy
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Tags: Law of Attraction, Relationships, Visualization