Relationships

While we cannot create in another person’s reality, we sometimes forget that we do create our perception of others around us. If we don’t like the way others treat us, we have to create the experience of them treating us differently.

Rather than focusing on what we DON’T want, we have to focus on what we DO want.

We DON’T want to be belittled, taken advantage of, or rejected.

We DO want to be accepted, admired, loved, and respected.

We create these experiences by choosing to make them our reality NOW. As we focus on them mentally, and feel the positive emotions … read more

We are raised with notions that love has something to do with how we express ourselves toward others. We think that when we love someone, we will compromise and make them feel better and will sacrifice ourselves and do anything for the object of our adoration. While this is true to a point, it is backwards. You can not love another until you fully embrace yourself.

I got an email the other day from a woman I’ll call Michelle. Michelle is dating a divorced man and things are going along great for them – but the problem is the man’s teenaged daughter, Kim.

Kim hates Michelle. Michelle was not the cause of Kim’s parents divorce, but she still hates her and wants nothing to do with her. Michelle does everything in her power to be friendly with Kim. She invites her over for gatherings and talks nicely to her when she sees her, but Kim just keeps pulling away. Michelle wanted to … read more